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this has been our experience !! My 10 yr old wants his new bed and old bed in his room right now...its maddening for me but he can' let go yet. even as a little preschooler. I painted the walls and he was very upset "paint them back", i moved our bedroom upstairs and that was another episode... much less of that now but he clearly verbalizes his dislike for change... and my cleaning up. It is agoal of mine to make some time for your parent site. Thank you!

As a mom, this is super helpful, thank you

Can you give us tips to help him

How did tou help your 7 year old to do homework and to remember what his doing and how did you get him to do reading thats things we struggled with him and the teacher also complained about he do nothing in his books at school but walk around. She ask us to take him to the dr so that the dr give him on conserta or Rittelin but the dr refuses to put him on that he say the teachers is to lazy to spend time with him. We also struggke with the learning process of homework he rip his books apart and throw us with it and nothing been done he went to school without homework

I understand, the "noise" but parents still need to be careful not to MISS the moments kids DO NEED connection. If parents come off too strong and not educated on kids behavior tendencies with ADHD, parents resort to yelling and a more authoritative parenting style. Parents need to check themselves to ensure they are balanced parenting....then kids will feel heard. Discipline, structure, and avoiding the pitfalls of noise......parents can learn here. Once I stopped yelling, my child's emotional vulnerability became much stronger. Her spirit wasn't being crushed. There's a fine line I believe. Your podcasts are a Godsend and much appreciated...so very helpful and needed right now. I'm glad my child with ADHD is growing up in this day and age and not 10 years ago, even 5.

I can totally relate to the sentimental bit even as an adult. My nine year old will get rid of NOTHING and is constantly bringing rocks and pine cones and stuff like that into her room, not to mention never wanting to throw away any of her drawings. Gotta try this crate strategy.

I still do this as a grown-up! Thanks for this insight and advice 🎉

Our Grandson of 5 scatters everything....toys...throws his empty mug, shoes when he takes them off etc. Advice?

Yep, I have always done this from my son ... ❤ he loves and Appreciated it so much

Our son does this. He doesn't even want to throw away packaging. This is so helpful. I have wondered if it's complicated even more by his being adopted.

I think this man need to do more research before sharing his opinion

My favorite episode yet. This area needs more attention for kids to navigate in that middle school age.

Its like pulling teeth to gey my boy to clean his room

My son does this. Thank you for explaining.

Wow I needed this years ago. At least I have it now :). Thank you.

THANK YOUUUU!!!!! It all makes sense now.

I’m emotionally disregulated parent which makes it impossible for me to set an example.

All your videos are gems. I use to do the same as a parent but now I’m going to control myself when my kids have conflict. Bless you

I also felt ignoring is not the right way. I appreciate this video. Its much more productive than ignoring bad behaviour.

I’ve struggled with this one. My son is adhd and autistic. I use language of accountability and I tell him, “you didn’t do your homework this week therefore you have chosen not to earn your pocket money this week”. And he comes back angry as a bull saying, “you chose not to give me it!” He can’t seem to comprehend accountability. He’s so literal thinking. Black and white thinking. There is a loop hole in everything I try 🫠😭 and he will argue the toss even though I’ve been doing this for weeks. Anyone else out there have dual diagnosis kids?

Wow I'm so glad I randomly stumbled on this video. I will have to try this

Wish my parents could have seen this 40 years ago.

I have a 3 year old who doesn't listen to anything. He can hear just fine but it goes in one ear out right out of the other. I am stuck in limbo on how to discipline him because he's still learning how to process his feelings and navigate the world so i don't know how to yet.

Great talk, I really needed to hear this. Thank you.

You guys are both awesome! I've listened to many of your ADHD Guys podcasts and have learned, or been affirmed, so much. Thank you!

I like and agree with wot u said in this video. But at wot age do u think this letter of changing approach to discipline . Will be acknowledged. And how do u stick to it without the child taking new opportunities to push boundaries and take things to a level u have u be more strict. ?

I’ve often found the “masking” concept questionable. It always seemed what one person called “masking” another person would call performing life skills, or executive skills as you say. I have a friend with Tourette syndrome and he manages to suppress almost all his tics during the day so he does not have to disclose at work, but then comes home and a tsunami of tics pours out of him. To me that is masking. To me that seems different from the so called masking often described in the ADHD social media world.

Could you share the news story about the profitability of ADHD-related social media posts? You mentioned it might be on CNN. I found a CNN story about the increase in teen self-diagnosis of mental health issues from non-professional accounts on social media. I wasn’t sure if that was the article or news segment you referenced.

What happens if you can't stay calm yourself?

Wow this sounds correct, I feel so bad.

my son has always been a noise maker & I've vaways joined in with him during the noise makingm by mimicking the same noise, & that many timesm results in the 2 od us laughing in hysterics together as my noises quite often are flubbs, Haha,

I should add that when he isn’t having outbursts , he is extremely loving and caring and keen to please. He craves physical contact from my husband but is constantly in conflict either one of his siblings particularly.

Thank you for this - it’s so helpful. Our son is ten and definitely uses noise to confuse and panic us into trying to get his own way. Could you advise us on what to do as we have six kids- one of whom autistic and is extremely sensitive to noise . We live in a small house so thee is no escape from the noise of his outbursts. We try to be firm and insist on him doing what we have asked of him but it’s so hard on our other kids , especially our daughter who finds noise painful. Our other kids are finding it so distressing aswell and it feels like his outbursts and loud overreactions are holding our whole family to ransom. We are at breaking point as a family. Any advice would be greatly appreciated .

wow gr8 insight , you addressed very basic and important issues which every parent is going through, thanks for your valuable suggestion ... hatts of ...

Going to try this really helpful advice. Thank you

What about self-harm rather than property destruction?

Yeah…it is in need of “fixing” when your behaviors/your kids behaviors are getting in the way of living a happy, successful life! Ty for all of your work!

I think our proboem is that the ADHD child is so slow to do the non preffered tasks that it affects the whole routine. Eg. They need to put on their clothes before school but they avoid starting and if you dont rescue them, the whole family is late. Or they need to go to the toilet/brush their teeth before bed, and if you dont eventually jump in, they wont get to bed on time which will lead to a lack of sleep and affect the next morning :( what do you suggest doing to promote independence when a situation has a time limit?

Hi, how can a parent with ADHD and Autism help to regulate their child also with ADHD and Autism? Do you help with that too? Do you help parents from the UK too? Because all the information that you share on short videos is a gift from the Universe for me. I am struggling to find ways with my 8-year-old son with ADHD & Autism. We triggered each other but I am learning to sometimes hold my emotions and try to find the solution for the moment, but it's a drainage process😢

Absolutely fantastic !

Eye opening Worth listening every day...

If they do it again a month later?!? What if it’s a daily thing? Can’t they remember when it’s several times a day?? It’s not necessarily violence, but rough touching and saying unkind things.

So basically we are doomed

Im trying to find new ways to help my younger brother as he is getting into trouble a lot at school and at home there are a lot of arguments with our dad. My dad tries his absolute best to make sure my brother learns from his bad behaviour but nothing ever really changes and he continues doing bad things when he has been told not to. I think my dad could try the cleaning up technique and make sure my brother does something positive to counter the negative thing that has happened e.g. yelling at a teacher, maybe sending them an email or making a card for them to show he is sorry. But t’s difficult to get him to want to take accountability as he is 13 and for some reason he just keeps doing the same things over and over. We don’t know if it is his ADHD or just his hormones as he is just turned a teenager but it is getting very difficult for my dad to parent him as he is very rebellious and continues doing the same wrong things all the time. Keeps arguing with him. Always needs to be right and have the last word. Never takes no for an answer and even when there’s a reason, he will keep on pushing and says he doesn’t understand. I think it might be better if me and my dad (as i care for my brother too) look for different methods accountability and teaching, because the ones we have at the moment are clearly not working, and instead of blaming my brother, maybe we should try a different technique. Any advice would be great, thank you.

❤ Superb I knew v.late about your channel... Yet I could do well as I got 1 wonderful teacher...who had faith in his abilities.. As I working...couldn't do that much...but made him do by himself...on his own he corrected...and I encouraged 😅... Was tough.. Yet its right 🎉 He's doing well...thanks to that... Trying always helps😊❤🎉

If you take out the words "with adhd" you get an honest break down of how to raise a normal child.